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Hello laughter, my old friend

By on Sep 11, 2017 in Blog Posts, Cancer, Spring | 5 comments

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“Wait for me!” I hollered to the backs of the older kids. They leapt onto the half-wall, over the flower-bed (all peppery with nasturtiums and marigolds) and then off through the narrow opening and onto the secret ledge. The teenagers didn’t break stride before throwing themselves off the edge, six feet down onto the rough grassy field. Their loping strides continued down the bank of the field and over the iron-orange boggy strip of drainage at the bottom. Over and on to the stream at the valley’s floor.

Slower and smaller but no less nimble, I could slither and climb down the rough face of that wall in a few seconds. They were a few seconds that left me still further behind the older kids. But not today, I thought, as I followed them through the gap. I had decided to jump and keep up.

The ledge, maybe half a metre wide, ran down the length of the Dutch barn. To my right the concrete rose dizzyingly high so that that grey-green wall blended with the grey-blue sky of the drizzly day. To my left was the drop. Down, down, down.

I stopped. I balanced close to the edge. The ground, framed by the twin, green tips of my boot-clad toes seemed miles away. Rufus, my brother, paused on the ground and turned back.

“Come on Pen. You can do it!” He said.

I swayed forward. I bent my knees trying to bring the ground closer. My breath caught in my throat.

“Come on!” He called and turned to follow the others down the field.

I jumped.

I landed with my too-big boot half-on and half-off . My ankle twisted painfully inside. Not an enduring misery. The pain lasted maybe ten faltering steps before the chase resumed. But the injury changed the future.

Until that moment, wounds when they came (and they surely did) had just arrived. They came. They were dealt with. They faded from memory. This one was different. It ignited my imagination. Not in a Harry Potter sort of way. In the way that we, as adults, have of remembering past pain. We make plans to avoid it in future. In that moment, I transformed high walls from “something to be jumped off” to “something that can cause pain”.

Why am I thinking about this? Cancer is that ledge times a billion. For my boys, that time when life was full of adventure and possibility and laughter got cut short. They’ve coped well. People use words like grit and resilience and pluck.  The cost of their courage was high. They paid by giving up their childish naivety; their ignorance of their mortality.

We laughed remembering Chris' excitement on his first flight.

Fast forward to this weekend.

Chris was trying to tell us about a YouTube clip he’d been watching. He laughed so much he couldn't get the words out. He'd start only to be interrupted by his own fit of giggles.  Josh and I had no idea what he was saying. His laughter was infectious. We smiled. We snorted. Within half a minute we too were howling out the kind of belly laugh that made our eyes stream and our sides ache. Shannon poked his head in the door and then he, too, convulsed.

It felt good. So very good.

It was the feeling of returning to those forgotten places of good memories: I didn’t know how much I’d missed it until I opened the door.

Like the smell of my mother.

Like the first sight of spring blossoms.

Like the late night rumbling of summer’s first thunder.

For a few hours we didn’t talk chemo or nausea or weight-loss or anything else about cancer. We rowed boats, we swam, we chewed ice-cubes from our frosty drinks. We re-lived the excitement of Chris’ first para-motor flight. We laughed at everything and at nothing.

Before long Joshua was laughing too.

Chris wandered off in search of a boat paddle and Josh turned to me. “I’ve missed his laughter,” he said.

Me too.

Chris - the king of laughter.

5 Comments

  1. Rufus

    11th September 2017

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    What exactly DOES Mum smell like? At the time, probably wet sheep!

    • Penny Castle

      11th September 2017

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      Now you’ll have to visit and sniff…but at least you got a mention 🙂

  2. Sandy

    11th September 2017

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    I’m there with you on the ledge! Evocative stuff 🙂 May there be many more returns to those forgotten places of good memories x

  3. Eleanor Trebicki

    12th September 2017

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    Dear Penny your writing gives me enormous pleasure. I never miss reading you even the sad bits and I’m a coward. Hope you will be writing more on your vege gardening. Did you know the soil contains a bacteria which can help with happiness? Those grumpy gardeners must all wear gloves. Happy Spring. Eleanor

  4. Lisa

    12th September 2017

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    Ahhhhh, yes, the belly laugh. Nothing like it. My husband is riding the same roller coaster as Josh, heck we all are. I want off….. I’m sure we all do! Our 17 year old daughter can bring that belly laugh out of us, I cherish those days.

    Much love

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