He made a difference…

By on Mar 22, 2018 in Autumn, Blog Posts, Cancer | 3 comments

The kids in Joshua’s grade had to write a reflective essay this week. They were asked to select a poem or song which reflected something important to them. I got this note from Joshua’s (and my) friend (and teacher to us both) about a different boy in the grade.

The worst day of my life

By on Mar 19, 2018 in Autumn, Blog Posts, Cancer | 8 comments

Last week my surviving son, Chris, handed me a piece of paper with the following essay printed on it. I’m both heartbroken and proud of what he had to say:

Look at the stars

By on Mar 14, 2018 in Autumn, Blog Posts, Cancer | 4 comments

I woke up to the news that Stephen Hawking has died. The world seems a little less bright, a little less clever this morning.


By on Mar 12, 2018 in Blog Posts, Cancer | 5 comments

I should have been happy on Thursday morning when I woke with image of Joshua’s shin front and centre of my mind. I was hoping for something maybe a little more significant than a shin memory but a shin is what I got.


By on Mar 5, 2018 in Blog Posts, Cancer | 14 comments

“I am going to do a full exam but before I do I want to get a little history,” she said. And then I realised my big, giant, insurmountable problem. It wasn’t the lump.

Loss isn’t catchy (or why we should listen to teenagers more)

By on Feb 22, 2018 in Blog Posts, Cancer | 7 comments

In the first draft of this post I wrote “something is wrong when we have to look to our children to show us how to behave” but on rereading it I think perhaps that something is right. Or at least something right is coming into the world.